Dear Future Husband
Dear Future Husband,
No, this isn't some Meghan Trainor song (although she isn't completely wrong). There are things that I want to know, things that I want to say to you, things that I want you to know about me.
Do you like to laugh? And by laugh I mean the kind where your stomach hurts, and you can barely breathe, and there are tears streaming down your face and you are on the verge on peeing your pants? Because that is honestly my favorite. Will you make me laugh? Better yet will you laugh at my stupid jokes?
Are you going to be a role model for our sons and a superhero for our daughters?
Will you share a carton of ice cream with me? And by share I mean let me eat most of it. Preferably Vanilla Bean ice cream?
Does your family have any kind of weird traditions that you're going to want to incorporate into our family? Because mine does. Like Taco Soup Day.
Will you help me fulfill my dream of visiting all 50 states?
Are you going to help tuck our kids into bed at night? Or sing them songs to help them fall asleep?
Do you believe in letting kids just be kids sometimes? Even if that means the house is a mess when you get home from work?
Will you let me put my feet up on you when we're sitting on the couch?
Will you rub my feet? Just a heads up, chances are I won't rub yours. Sorry but feet are gross.
Are you willing to always empty the dishwasher? Because to me, that is DEFINITELY the worst part about doing dishes.
Will you push me to be the best version of myself?
Are you content with just staying in bed on rainy Sunday afternoons?
Do you like taking long drives just because? I believe that going on drives is good for the soul.
Will you hold my hand just because you want to?
Can you at least pretend to be as excited about musicals as I am?
How are good are you with awkward situations? Because I am REALLY good at creating them.
Will you stick up for me with your family?
Can we just have cereal for dinner some nights?
Will you make fun of me and how ridiculously emotional I get during movies or will you sit with me as a cry?
Can we get a dog? And I do not mean a little yappy dog.
Do you want to a majority of the driving when we go out? Ever since my accident I really do not like driving.
Will help teach our children about the gospel and share with them your testimony?
Can we just have the holidays to our selves sometimes instead of trying to split it between out families?
Will you promise to always be my best friend, even if I may not like you in the moment.
Will you promise to never go to bed angry?
Will you forgive me when I am hangry?
Or if I burn dinner?
Can you just let me vent sometimes without trying to fix it? Unless I actually need your help. In that case, please give your opinion.
Are you going to think it is weird that I change my nail polish color five times a month?
Will you understand and not get mad if I just need to be by myself for a few minutes?
Are you willing to kill all the bugs? Especially the crickets?? Oh man do I HATE those things!
Will you make fun of, or tell me that my taste in music is terrible?
Can you promise to love me for my faults because trust me I have a lot of them.
I need you to know that I am not good as speaking. I can't vocalize how I feel very well. I don't necessarily like confrontation and I am known for crying in the shower.
But I am also a very loud person. I just am. If I am comfortable with people I am loud.
Sometimes I get so mad that I loose my voice from yelling. I'm sorry for that. I'm really trying to be better.
I am going to need you by myside. Especially when our kids are teenagers and they decide that they hate us, or they go get their tongue pierced and I am trying to resist the urge go rip it right out of their mouth.
I need you to know that I love with my whole heart. Not just people, but things. I love stormy weather and flowers and sunsets and stargazing. I love the way wood smells. I love music and the way it can make you feel. I love the gospel and I want to teach it to our children. I want to be an example to them always. I want us to be an example for them.
Will you live the rest of your life, the rest of eternity with me standing next to you?
Will you?
I'm not worried about who you are as a person. I'm not worried about if you will love me or if you will be happy being married to me. But I see the way my parents are with each other. I see the way they look at each other. I see the love and the respect and they are honestly best friends, and that is what I want. I want to live and love life with you.
But most of all, I want you to know that I pray for you. I pray that you are doing the right thing. I pray that you are safe and happy. I pray that I am becoming the kind of woman that you and I both need me to be. I pray that some day, when we are finally together that we can loving and patient and understanding. So even though I don't know who you are yet, I pray for you.
And that is what I need you to know the most.
No, this isn't some Meghan Trainor song (although she isn't completely wrong). There are things that I want to know, things that I want to say to you, things that I want you to know about me.
Do you like to laugh? And by laugh I mean the kind where your stomach hurts, and you can barely breathe, and there are tears streaming down your face and you are on the verge on peeing your pants? Because that is honestly my favorite. Will you make me laugh? Better yet will you laugh at my stupid jokes?
Are you going to be a role model for our sons and a superhero for our daughters?
Will you share a carton of ice cream with me? And by share I mean let me eat most of it. Preferably Vanilla Bean ice cream?
Does your family have any kind of weird traditions that you're going to want to incorporate into our family? Because mine does. Like Taco Soup Day.
Will you help me fulfill my dream of visiting all 50 states?
Are you going to help tuck our kids into bed at night? Or sing them songs to help them fall asleep?
Do you believe in letting kids just be kids sometimes? Even if that means the house is a mess when you get home from work?
Will you let me put my feet up on you when we're sitting on the couch?
Will you rub my feet? Just a heads up, chances are I won't rub yours. Sorry but feet are gross.
Are you willing to always empty the dishwasher? Because to me, that is DEFINITELY the worst part about doing dishes.
Will you push me to be the best version of myself?
Are you content with just staying in bed on rainy Sunday afternoons?
Do you like taking long drives just because? I believe that going on drives is good for the soul.
Will you hold my hand just because you want to?
Can you at least pretend to be as excited about musicals as I am?
How are good are you with awkward situations? Because I am REALLY good at creating them.
Will you stick up for me with your family?
Can we just have cereal for dinner some nights?
Will you make fun of me and how ridiculously emotional I get during movies or will you sit with me as a cry?
Can we get a dog? And I do not mean a little yappy dog.
Do you want to a majority of the driving when we go out? Ever since my accident I really do not like driving.
Will help teach our children about the gospel and share with them your testimony?
Can we just have the holidays to our selves sometimes instead of trying to split it between out families?
Will you promise to always be my best friend, even if I may not like you in the moment.
Will you promise to never go to bed angry?
Will you forgive me when I am hangry?
Or if I burn dinner?
Can you just let me vent sometimes without trying to fix it? Unless I actually need your help. In that case, please give your opinion.
Are you going to think it is weird that I change my nail polish color five times a month?
Will you understand and not get mad if I just need to be by myself for a few minutes?
Are you willing to kill all the bugs? Especially the crickets?? Oh man do I HATE those things!
Will you make fun of, or tell me that my taste in music is terrible?
Can you promise to love me for my faults because trust me I have a lot of them.
I need you to know that I am not good as speaking. I can't vocalize how I feel very well. I don't necessarily like confrontation and I am known for crying in the shower.
But I am also a very loud person. I just am. If I am comfortable with people I am loud.
Sometimes I get so mad that I loose my voice from yelling. I'm sorry for that. I'm really trying to be better.
I am going to need you by myside. Especially when our kids are teenagers and they decide that they hate us, or they go get their tongue pierced and I am trying to resist the urge go rip it right out of their mouth.
I need you to know that I love with my whole heart. Not just people, but things. I love stormy weather and flowers and sunsets and stargazing. I love the way wood smells. I love music and the way it can make you feel. I love the gospel and I want to teach it to our children. I want to be an example to them always. I want us to be an example for them.
Will you live the rest of your life, the rest of eternity with me standing next to you?
Will you?
I'm not worried about who you are as a person. I'm not worried about if you will love me or if you will be happy being married to me. But I see the way my parents are with each other. I see the way they look at each other. I see the love and the respect and they are honestly best friends, and that is what I want. I want to live and love life with you.
But most of all, I want you to know that I pray for you. I pray that you are doing the right thing. I pray that you are safe and happy. I pray that I am becoming the kind of woman that you and I both need me to be. I pray that some day, when we are finally together that we can loving and patient and understanding. So even though I don't know who you are yet, I pray for you.
And that is what I need you to know the most.
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