Dating: Yay or Nay?
So it's not really my place to judge on peoples dating; however this is my blog and if I want to talk about dating than I will.
I stand here before you today (or I guess I'm sitting and I'm not really before you) and turning 17 in 4 months with not having gone on a single date.
Now before you start questioning why it is I have not gone on a single date, I will tell you. First, guys just don't ask girls out anymore unless they are in their circle of friends. Unfortunately most of the guys in my circle of friends are younger than me. Second, I am not the kind of girl to go ask a guy out. Third, I HONESTLY DON'T CARE!
This seems to be the hardest concept for some of my friends to grasp. I am may be old enough to date but it doesn't mean I have to. I could care less if I was dating! Dating is seriously one of the last things on my mind in my life right now. I only bring it up right now because of somethings some of my girl friends have brought up recently.
Going on dates is not going to make or brake my life. In my opinion, girls who complain because they have been 16 for two weeks or even two months and haven't been asked out yet are just looking to get their hearts broken. Your self-esteem and happiness shouldn't depend on how many dates you've been on or what guys like you. You should walk into a room walking tall and your head held high not caring if you have a date for Friday night or not. We shouldn't post on Facebook or Twitter or whatever other pointless social networking site out there about how we aren't getting asked out on dates. I have asked quite a few guys and have found that most guys find that a HUGE turn off!
Before you start dating someone else, date yourself for awhile. I know that sounds weird but just try it. Now I'm not saying you should take yourself out to some fancy restaurant; just get to know yourself again. Find out what your likes and dislikes are and your strengthens and weaknesses. Than work on it. If you need a higher self-esteem than work on it. If you need to learn not to be so whiny, work on it. If you need to learn not judge people so much, work on it. If you need to learn some common sense on what is appropriate to say to people and not, work on it. I can almost guarantee that the guys we know now will thank us girls later if we are strong women and not weak little girls who need their constant reassurance to make us feel better about our selves.
This goes perfectly with why dating isn't that important in my life right now. In the words of my dad and sister Maggie "Guys in today's society won't date strong (I'm not meaning just physically strong but emotionally, spiritually and mentally) girls because it scares them. After their missions they will be just as mature and strong as the girl you were in high school." I would like to add that some guys (a select few) are just as strong in high school. Also that if we are girls don't buck up and become the strong women I know we can than when the guys come back from their missions, we will be stuck back in that completely dependent on others stage and will have to grow up really fast for the guys we want to marry. So I have a news flash or more like a piece of advice for the girls in my life or not in my life or really any girl. STOP WORRYING ABOUT DATING!!! When the time comes the right guys will come along and sweep you off your feet. Until than make yourself the best you can for him.
I stand here before you today (or I guess I'm sitting and I'm not really before you) and turning 17 in 4 months with not having gone on a single date.
Now before you start questioning why it is I have not gone on a single date, I will tell you. First, guys just don't ask girls out anymore unless they are in their circle of friends. Unfortunately most of the guys in my circle of friends are younger than me. Second, I am not the kind of girl to go ask a guy out. Third, I HONESTLY DON'T CARE!
This seems to be the hardest concept for some of my friends to grasp. I am may be old enough to date but it doesn't mean I have to. I could care less if I was dating! Dating is seriously one of the last things on my mind in my life right now. I only bring it up right now because of somethings some of my girl friends have brought up recently.
Going on dates is not going to make or brake my life. In my opinion, girls who complain because they have been 16 for two weeks or even two months and haven't been asked out yet are just looking to get their hearts broken. Your self-esteem and happiness shouldn't depend on how many dates you've been on or what guys like you. You should walk into a room walking tall and your head held high not caring if you have a date for Friday night or not. We shouldn't post on Facebook or Twitter or whatever other pointless social networking site out there about how we aren't getting asked out on dates. I have asked quite a few guys and have found that most guys find that a HUGE turn off!
Before you start dating someone else, date yourself for awhile. I know that sounds weird but just try it. Now I'm not saying you should take yourself out to some fancy restaurant; just get to know yourself again. Find out what your likes and dislikes are and your strengthens and weaknesses. Than work on it. If you need a higher self-esteem than work on it. If you need to learn not to be so whiny, work on it. If you need to learn not judge people so much, work on it. If you need to learn some common sense on what is appropriate to say to people and not, work on it. I can almost guarantee that the guys we know now will thank us girls later if we are strong women and not weak little girls who need their constant reassurance to make us feel better about our selves.
This goes perfectly with why dating isn't that important in my life right now. In the words of my dad and sister Maggie "Guys in today's society won't date strong (I'm not meaning just physically strong but emotionally, spiritually and mentally) girls because it scares them. After their missions they will be just as mature and strong as the girl you were in high school." I would like to add that some guys (a select few) are just as strong in high school. Also that if we are girls don't buck up and become the strong women I know we can than when the guys come back from their missions, we will be stuck back in that completely dependent on others stage and will have to grow up really fast for the guys we want to marry. So I have a news flash or more like a piece of advice for the girls in my life or not in my life or really any girl. STOP WORRYING ABOUT DATING!!! When the time comes the right guys will come along and sweep you off your feet. Until than make yourself the best you can for him.
Nicely put Sam! My first official "date" was when I was 17. I could have cared less too! You are a strong woman and any guy would be lucky to date you.
ReplyDeleteAwesome! Good for you, I'm glad you have the wisdom & confidence to know this at age 16 :) my first date was right around your age; I'm 22 & have only been on an average of 5 or 6 dates a Year and it doesn't bother me a whole lot. I also appreciate your advice to work on our own improvements first! You're doing great :)
ReplyDeleteSam- you are such an amazing young woman with a smart head on your shoulders! You speak with wisdom beyond your years, and I LOVE you for how honest you always are. Thanks for sharing your feelings, I hope it helps others realize that they are beautiful and valuable even if they aren't going out on dates just yet. Love you!
ReplyDeleteThanks everyone! :D I honestly didn't think people would actually read my blog. I guess this is what happens when your sister posts it on Facebook. I always try to be honest with people but it doesn't always turn out so well, so I figured I would start talking about different things on here.
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